It is built through the experiences that we had and still have through the years of our lives. If we had more positive experiences than negative experiences, the result is a higher level of self-esteem. When the opposite is true regarding our life experiences, then the result is a low level of self-esteem.
People with low self-esteem are not condemned to it for life. There are specific things that can be done to improve or increase self-esteem. Here are a few ideas that you can do on your own.
Focus on Your Positives!
It’s easy to forget that you are a special person. Take some time to write a list of the attributes that you are proud of (i.e. intelligence, humor, athletic ability, etc.) Be specific, and keep your list handy to make additions or read it aloud when you are feeling down.
Look in the Mirror!
Take a reflective moment to see you as others do. Are you taking care of your body, are you eating right, exercising, practicing good grooming? How you look on the outside is a reflection of how you feel on the inside.
Associate with Winners!
Picking the right friends and associates helps you surround yourself with positive energy, enthusiasm, and a “can do” attitude. Be careful not to compare, be okay with who you are.
Manage your First Impressions!
Many studies in human communication emphasize the importance of a first impression. Look people in the eye, reach out with a handshake, and volunteer with your name first. Try to use the person's name in the conversation to aid in remembering. Using this technique gives a great first impression. Eye contact is vital in informing people how you feel about yourself and conveys sincerity.
Acknowledge Those Around You!
Take the time to notice the little positives you see in others. Don’t be stingy with compliments and congratulations. By putting the positive energy out to others, you are bound to receive some back. Say “thank you” when you are the receiver of praise. Thank them twice and it will reinforce the compliment and spread the positive energy around.
Choose your Words Wisely!
Everything that you say about yourself and others is carved into your memory. Negative self-talk, along with put-downs of other people, has a way of influencing the way you look at life.
Mr. Pierre Benoit is the owner and operator of Hypnotherapy and Counselling Clinic (Clinique d'hypnothérapie et de relation d'aide). Mr Benoit worked as a Specialized Educator and Child and Family Counselor from 1977 to 1998. He worked at the following agencies:
From 1996 to 2004 Mr. Benoit opened the Institut International de Formation et de Ressourcement Inc. where he taught, in different agencies and companies throughout Quebec, intervention techniques to handle verbal and physical aggression. His programs were also accepted by cégeps where he taught his program such as Cégep de St-Jérôme, Cégep Marie-Victorin, LaSalle College.
Through his need to better himself, he was certified as a Neuro-Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner and started learning hypnosis as a modality for change to help his clients better themselves. He decided to specialize in hypnotherapy and, in 2004, he opened the Clinique d’hypnothérapie et de relation d’aide where he has been working full-time helping people reconnect with their potential for success.