Parenting is one of those things that can be both the most rewarding experience of your life and the most challenging thing you’ll ever do. There’s no manual for how to do it, we didn’t all have good models of how to do it well, and there’s always someone close by who looks like they’re doing it way better than you. Very few people are born great parents — it’s something we learn through experience, and we can improve on it with the help of a trusted mentor.
There’s no single way to parent well. How do you get a baby to sleep through the night? How do you help young children self-regulate and not have a tantrum, bite or lash out? How hard do you push your underachieving or shy student? How do you handle conversations about dating, curfews, drugs and school when you come from one culture and your children are being raised in another? How do you raise someone to be a good human being? And importantly, how do you ensure you meet the emotional and practical needs of your family when you barely get enough sleep, have your own full-time job outside the house, and barely get any time for yourself?
Our team of psychologists and registered psychotherapists work with parents of children of all ages to help them find solutions that work. We will work with you, your partner and some or all of your children to understand why you’re facing those challenges and find solutions to resolve them. Some families benefit from realizing that the same parenting style might not work for all kids in the house. Every child develops at their own pace and has a unique temperament and learning style. Holding too rigidly to a one-size-fits-all approach can put unfair demands on children who might not be quite as capable or ready as others.
Our therapists help parents understand which behaviours are typical for their child’s stage of development and can advise about when your parenting model might need to change to continue being effective. When children are young we need to control them to keep them safe. But as they mature and begin making more decisions on their own, parents need to become mentors, trusted advisors whose goal is to help young adults learn responsibility and independence.
We can also assist when parenting challenges expose other issues, like anxiety, post-partum depression, and relationship issues. Parenting and couples’ therapy can also help when child behaviour problem cause disagreements between spouses and when minor issues erupt into major battles.
Shift Cognitive Therapy + Assessment is a team of psychologists and counsellers in Oakville, ON. We specialize in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy(CBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) for the treatment of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), depression and anxiety for children, teens and adults.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy & Emotion-Focused Therapy
The goal of cognitive behaviour therapy is to help individuals become aware of the thoughts and patterns of behaviour that keep them feeling stuck. Its focus is on the ‘here-and-now’ to help relieve current symptoms and address current problems.
Emotion-Focused Therapy is an approach to couples and family issues that focuses on identifying and correcting repetitive and dysfunctional patterns that leave people feeling alone and unsupported. EFT helps members of a couple or family to remain engaged with each other in order to better communicate what each really needs from the other.